Lesbians are gay too!

I realize that the majority of homophobia is from the male perspective - the fear of gay men and probably anal sex - although I'm honestly not 100% sure of the underlying issues. However, I am so tired - so sick of - being ignored as a gay woman! If we're not discriminated against, we're the subjects of male fantasies - although not really women like me, the more masculine type of lesbian. I don't know which is worse - the discriminiation or straight male fantasies!

I'm writing this blog post because of, yet another, homophobic line of reasoning put forth in a question to Ted Olson, one of the Plaintiff Attorneys for the Federal Unconstitutionality of California's Prop 8 case, by the anti-marriage equality group ironically called the National Organization for Marriage (NOM):

"Do you really believe that mothers and fathers are interchangeable and that gender is irrelevant to parenting? If gender is really irrelevant, why do self-described “gays” insist on having a male sex partner? Why isn’t a really masculine woman just as acceptable as a male sex partner?"

Well, actually, some gay men do like masculine women - I've been hit on by more gay men at clubs than gay women! (I hope that's because women just don't hit on anyone as much as men do!) Not all gays "insist" on having a male sex partner! I insist on having a female sex partner - but more than just a sex partner - a loving partner!

Strangely, I find it offensive that all over the media the most common homophobic remarks and blatant fears are regarding gay men and not gay women/lesbians. Obviously, the homophobic remarks are offensive all in and of themselves - but I guess my point is about how everything's from the male perspective. I also think that if straight men can understand how women can be gay (maybe because they are less afraid of women or threatened by their sex), maybe they could then also understand gay men in the same way that they understand gay women and realize it's not about sex - it's about a loving relationship that does not threaten them, their masculinity or their sexuality! If anything, straight men should be thankful for the existence of gay men - it reduces the size of the male pool of heterosexuals without reducing the female pool! Straight men should feel more threatened by lesbians cause we do deplete the female pool for heterosexual men! But really, neither of us do because the pool size of heterosexuals is always the same since if we're hooking up with them then they aren't heterosexuals!!