This is my first post. As such, I thought the topic of sex would be rather intriguing enough.
It is not hard to like sex when it feels good and when feeling that good is easy. However, probably as a woman and not having such a large, and readily accessible sexual organ, it is not always so easy. Sure, it's a mixture of hormones, neurotransmitters, blood supply, knowledge of anatomy and the sensations that are related to anatomy, but it is also something more than that (although maybe not to men, I really can't say.) Sex with others is work. Masturbation is like brushing one's own teeth - it's so much easier to brush your own teeth than to have someone else do it. Yet, sex with another has its own perks, I guess, except for the extra work. I have a hard time getting over the work part unless I'm really attracted to the other.
Then there's the idea of attraction. Why are we attracted to who we are attracted to? Why does one person make my insides do a fluttery-flip, while another barely registers as anything? Why am I attracted to women much more often than men? This unknown only irritates me because I am rarely attracted to people and therefore I am rarely up for having sex with someone else, even though I really like sex when it feels good. But I really dislike it when it feels more like work than pleasure.
Sometimes I am ashamed that I am not into sex with more people more often. Sometimes I feel like there might be something wrong with me. But I can get off - I do this all the time when I masturbate. Sometimes I masturbate several times a day, and I don't even need to be thinking of anyone in particular (in fact, it's better if I don't.) I wish I could say it is normal, but I don't know for sure. I guess it's not a problem, really, except that I am still single and have not come across someone who is my match - in this way or in any other way, really. So I am left to wonder...to wonder if I am alone like this or not.
It is not hard to like sex when it feels good and when feeling that good is easy. However, probably as a woman and not having such a large, and readily accessible sexual organ, it is not always so easy. Sure, it's a mixture of hormones, neurotransmitters, blood supply, knowledge of anatomy and the sensations that are related to anatomy, but it is also something more than that (although maybe not to men, I really can't say.) Sex with others is work. Masturbation is like brushing one's own teeth - it's so much easier to brush your own teeth than to have someone else do it. Yet, sex with another has its own perks, I guess, except for the extra work. I have a hard time getting over the work part unless I'm really attracted to the other.
Then there's the idea of attraction. Why are we attracted to who we are attracted to? Why does one person make my insides do a fluttery-flip, while another barely registers as anything? Why am I attracted to women much more often than men? This unknown only irritates me because I am rarely attracted to people and therefore I am rarely up for having sex with someone else, even though I really like sex when it feels good. But I really dislike it when it feels more like work than pleasure.
Sometimes I am ashamed that I am not into sex with more people more often. Sometimes I feel like there might be something wrong with me. But I can get off - I do this all the time when I masturbate. Sometimes I masturbate several times a day, and I don't even need to be thinking of anyone in particular (in fact, it's better if I don't.) I wish I could say it is normal, but I don't know for sure. I guess it's not a problem, really, except that I am still single and have not come across someone who is my match - in this way or in any other way, really. So I am left to wonder...to wonder if I am alone like this or not.
